I vowed to myself that if I ever had children and married, I would use their lessons and carve out a different path where children became the focus and egos were firmly set aside. However, life diverted me to a different route and I ended up in a violent and abusive relationship. I was too proud to ask for help and deeply ashamed, scared and nervous about what others would think of me. So, I kept quiet, lost some of my friends, and I felt so alone throughout the relationship. 

I did eventually break free, and I was desperate to rebuild my life. I wanted to learn about healthy relationships, what it takes to have them, and what changes would I need to make to get them. I wanted to make sure I picked a partner who had similar values, beliefs and ideas about parenting. Because I wanted a different story.  

When people ask me why I do this work they are often surprised when I tell them what I went through. They don’t see me as somebody who would tolerate abuse. But I did. And I learned from it, and that’s why I am here now, helping women take back their control and create a life they fully deserve. Because divorce, separation or damaging relationships do not have to define you.