In the fast-paced world, we live in, taking care of ourselves often takes a backseat to the demands of daily life. I recently listened to a podcast about the importance and value of self-care in our morning and evening routines. And it made me realise that how I start and end my day has always been hectic.
As somebody who has spent most of my life ”rushing around,” I have started to appreciate and understand the value of carving out time for myself at the start and end of my day.
Habits can sometimes feel impossible to change. I would typically wake up in the morning, rush to get dressed, never eat breakfast, chug down a cup of black coffee and get out the door sharpish.
I despised routine. It wasn’t exciting enough, tying myself down to do the same thing at the same time every day. BORING. I liked the fast pace of not knowing what the day would have in store; the thought of routine felt like I was giving up and getting old. ‘’I’ll get to all that stuff once I hit 50’’.
This is especially true for those going through a breakup or divorce. Self-care can seem like the last thing you have time for. Trying to manage the rollercoaster of emotions throughout the separation, get up and go to work, even the simplest things, can feel difficult. But how we treat ourselves matters; taking time to reset, recharge and love our body and mind will positively impact our mood.
So, a few months ago, I decided to take my self-care to the next level. And it goes a little something like this…..
I turn my bedroom into a soothing environment:
I dim the lights and draw the curtains. I invested in some blackout curtains years ago, which are a godsend when you live somewhere bright and sunny.
I use an alarm clock that has a light dimmer on it. So, it offers different coloured light options; I don’t trust myself to stay awake to blow out the candles.
I listen to a podcast or some calm music. I try not to listen to anything that will spark my interest. Otherwise, I won’t be able to fall asleep thinking about what I have just learned. I may also read a book 30 minutes before sleep time. Everybody is different, and reading relaxes me, as does music.
The phone goes into sleep mode at 9:30 PM. I used to leave my phone in another bedroom instead of beside my bed. However, I use the phone for music/podcasts, etc.
I love to use products. This is the favourite part of my self-care routine. I spray my pillow with a lavender night-time spray. For the first week, my husband asked, ‘’What on earth is going on? Why are you crop dusting the bed’’. Now he’s used to it and likes the smell of the spray.
I use a foot and hand cream, then roll essential oils on my wrists and temples; I take a few seconds to inhale the smell and think of something I am grateful for. Extensive research showcases the importance of practising more gratitude in our lives; it makes us feel better, and each evening, I think of at least one thing/person I am grateful for. Journaling this is even better, but I am not there yet. Building habits takes time; we shouldn’t get mad at ourselves when those break.
Remember, night-time self-care isn’t just a luxury—it’s a vital investment in your overall well-being. By dedicating time to unwind, relax, and nourish your body and mind, you set the stage for a restful night’s sleep and a more balanced and fulfilling life. Step up the self-care when you are going through this challenging time; you deserve it.
