Divorcing Your Inner Critic: How Positive Intelligence Helps You Take the Lead

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Let’s be honest — divorce can turn your mind into a battleground. It’s not just the paperwork, the lawyers, or the late-night Googling of “what is parallel parenting?” It’s the inner war zone — the self-doubt, the guilt, the voice in your head whispering “You’ve failed.”

Enter Positive Intelligence.

Rooted in neuroscience and psychology, Positive Intelligence (or PQ) helps you identify the mental saboteurs hijacking your peace — the Judge, the Pleaser, the Controller, the Victim… sound familiar?

During divorce, these saboteurs don’t just whisper — they scream. They feed on fear, amplify your shame, and keep you stuck in cycles of overthinking, self-blame, and burnout. That’s where PQ steps in — like a breath of fresh, fierce clarity.

It’s mental fitness for people who are done letting fear run the show.

And here’s why I adore this work: I’ve watched clients shift from shame to self-celebration. They stop people-pleasing and start taking up space. They become their own anchor. They get their sparkle back — and that is when the magic begins.

PQ is a superpower. Once you recognise your saboteurs, you also start spotting other people’s — and that changes everything. You stop reacting from pain. You start responding with power. With empathy. With discernment. And the energy that once went into overthinking? It flows into your healing, your vision, and the person you’re becoming.

Because the truth is: you can’t control how others behave — but you can control your response. And when you lead from your inner Sage — the part of you that is calm, intuitive, and wildly wise — everything changes.

Divorce doesn’t break you. It breaks the illusion.
And what comes next? That’s yours to create.

If you’re ready to stop letting your inner critic run the show — and start leading from your highest self — I’d love to support you.
I integrate PQ into my private coaching so you can rebuild from the inside out with grace, strategy, and unapologetic power.

Message me or book a call — your next chapter is calling.