Ah, relationships. Those beautiful, complex, sometimes downright confounding connections we humans dive into with such enthusiasm and, let’s be honest, a fair bit of naiveté. Whether it’s the exhilarating first date butterflies or the comforting routines of a long-term partnership, there’s much to love about being in love. Yet, despite all the romance, letting go of a relationship can feel like trying to solve a Rubik’s Cube blindfolded. But holding on when things aren’t right is often even harder.
Are you in the Comfort Zone Conundrum?
We humans are creatures of habit. We like our routines. We find comfort in the known, even when the known is a lukewarm relationship that’s more “meh” than marvellous. Breaking up means venturing into the great unknown. Staying in a relationship, even a not-so-great one, feels safer. It’s like staying in your comfy pyjamas all day – sure, they’re a bit threadbare and mismatched, but they’re familiar.
The Emotional Rollercoaster
Letting go means facing a rollercoaster of emotions. You’ll have the highs of newfound freedom and the lows of lonely Friday nights. There will be tears. There may be ice cream. But here’s the secret no one tells you: holding on to a relationship that’s not working is like being stuck on a rollercoaster that only goes in circles. It’s dizzying, exhausting, and not nearly as fun as it sounds. You’re constantly navigating arguments, disappointments, and that nagging feeling that something’s wrong. It’s emotional whiplash without the thrill.
The ‘Myth’ of ‘Good Enough’
Society has this sneaky little way of convincing us that “good enough” is good enough. But is it? Staying in a relationship that’s just okay is like settling for a mediocre sandwich when there’s a gourmet feast waiting for you. We tell ourselves we’re being practical and avoiding the drama of a breakup. But in reality, we’re just postponing our happiness. Letting go means opening yourself up to the possibility of something truly extraordinary.
The reality of abuse
If you’re in a relationship where there’s abuse – whether physical, emotional, or psychological – the stakes are much higher. Letting go is about facing the unknown and reclaiming your safety and well-being. It’s about breaking free from a cycle that’s harming you.
Staying in an abusive relationship is like trying to keep a plant alive in the dark. It might survive for a while, but it will never truly thrive. The fear of leaving is very real, but the cost of staying can be devastating. You deserve to live in the light, where you can grow and flourish.
The journey of discovery
Breaking up is hard. There’s no sugarcoating that. But the aftermath? That’s where the magic happens. In the aftermath, you rediscover who you are, what you want, and what you truly deserve. It’s like finding a long-lost treasure map that leads you back to yourself. Especially when the relationship has been abusive, we completely lose our sense of self. What we value, what we used to enjoy, and what we like. Because the perpetrators have made themselves the centre of our attention, and everything has been about them.
But when you let go, it’s the most liberating feeling in the world!! You make room for new opportunities, new relationships, and new adventures. You get to rewrite your story, and let me tell you, the new chapters are so much better. Sure, there will be moments of doubt and fear, but there will also be moments of pure joy and freedom. We move forward as soon as we take responsibility for where we are.
Take bold action
Letting go is hard because it requires bravery, vulnerability, and a leap of faith. But holding on is harder because it means settling for less than you deserve.
Everyone has inherent value and deserves to be treated with respect, dignity and compassion. I am tired of people being told to extinguish their lights, stay quiet, and do as they are told. Eventually, we question who we are or what we deserve because of what our partner tells us.
So, if you find yourself at a crossroads, remember this: you are worthy of a relationship that lights you up, challenges you, and makes you feel truly alive.
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In Light
Saria
